Introduction
When young people are in a relationship for a long time, they often agree to get married. In Somali culture, when they decide on marriage, they inform their parents. After that, both families prepare for the wedding.
How the Marriage Ceremony Happens
When the boy and girl tell their parents, the boy’s family visits the girl’s family. They bring livestock, food, and other items needed for the wedding. The girl’s family welcomes them warmly. Then, the elders from both sides discuss the marriage. On that same day, the marriage contract (meher) takes place.
Sooryo (Wedding Gift Distribution)
Sooryo is an important tradition in Somali weddings. It means giving out money during the marriage ceremony. The money is shared among relatives and guests, especially from the bride’s side. A wedding without sooryo is not respected and people may criticize it.
Wedding Celebration
After the meher, the wedding celebration happens a few days later. The boy’s family provides livestock such as camels or goats, as well as food. The wedding takes place at the bride’s house. There is dancing, singing, and traditional performances like dhaanto. Women sing poems and songs (buraanbur) praising the couple. Before the bride goes to live with her husband, her mother advises her by saying: “Be strong in your new home, my daughter.” Then the bride is taken to the new house prepared for the couple.
Todoba Bax (Seven Nights Celebration)
This is a very important part of Somali weddings. It usually happens the day after the wedding. Women from both families gather together, singing and chanting. Money is placed on the bride’s forehead while people call out her name and her husband’s name. The largest amounts are usually given by the mothers of the bride and groom. During this event, people perform buraanbur, recite poems, and enjoy together. Neighbors and community members also come to watch and celebrate.
Conclusion
When the todoba bax ends, the wedding celebrations are complete. The couple now starts their life together in a new home. From then on, the bride takes responsibility for her household, and no more wedding ceremonies are held for her.
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